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Finding Moments of Peace and Gratitude š«¶ š
Eldest daughter syndrome, secure attachment style in relationships, and gratitude journaling
Hello everyone!
October has always been one of my favorite months, and this year feels especially meaningful. Between celebrations with friends & family, fall activities, and trying new slow cooker recipes, itās been a busy yet fulfilling season. Iām feeling deeply grateful for everything fall has brought.
Back in the summer, I shared some reflections on how I wanted to savor that season. Now, as we settle into fall, I wanted to do the sameāsharing mindful fall moments that have helped me stay grounded. I hope that they also inspire you to slow down, take in the season, and find your own moments of peace.

One of my favorite fall activities! š
Mindful Fall Moments:
Visiting a pumpkin patch
Watching comfort shows (more on that below)
Creating the perfect fall playlist
Making cozy, warm soups
Wearing my favorite sweaters
Taking walks to enjoy the changing leaves
Curling up with a book after lighting a candle
Wishing you all a mindful and restorative rest of October!
All the best,
Mandy

FROM THE GG BLOG
Eldest Daughter Syndrome: How Birth Orders Can Shape Behaviors and Relationships
If youāre the eldest daughter, you may carry more than just the weight of responsibility. While not an official diagnosis, "Eldest Daughter Syndrome" is a term used to describe the unique challenges and experiences often faced by the oldest daughter. The role you took on within your family dynamic can influence patterns of behavior that extend far beyond childhood.

If you notice yourself struggling with anxiety, perfectionism, or people-pleasing as an adult, it could be rooted in your experience as the eldest. Often, these roles are internalized, leaving you feeling like you must always be āonāāthe fixer, caretaker, or the one in controlāwhich can also influence how you approach your relationships.
MEDIA
How Netflix's Nobody Wants This Portrays a Secure Attachment Style in Relationships
Like many others, I became an instant fan of Nobody Wants This and binged the entire series when it was released. The showās feel good vibe has captured the hearts of so many, and as a millennial, I couldnāt help but find comfort in seeing Adam Brody back on our screens. Beyond this, what stood out to me as a therapist was the portrayal of healthy communication and secure attachment, especially through the male lead character, Noah, played by Adam.
Itās refreshing to see a male character embodying a secure attachment style so well, and Nobody Wants This does a great job of showing what a healthy relationship can look like. If you haven't watched it yet and plan to, feel free to circle back to this later to avoid spoilers!
Here are a few key ways the show demonstrates secure attachment in relationships:
Clear Communication of Intentions and Feelings
From the beginning, Noah is honest with Joanne (Kristen Bell) about his intentions. On their first date, heās transparent and states that heās looking for a meaningful relationship, not just a rebound or something casual. Both partners express their feelings while holding space for each other.
Listening and Prioritizing Partnerās Needs
Feeling seen and heard is critical in relationships. Noah makes it a priority to listen to Joanne, ensuring she feels valued when she shares whatās important to her. Whether theyāre navigating new experiences or challenges, Noah and Joanne consistently find ways to compromise, making sure both partners feel comfortable and supported.
Respecting Boundaries
Another aspect of secure attachment is recognizing and respecting boundaries. When Joanne expresses concerns about how she fits in Noah's life, he doesnāt dismiss her feelings. Instead, he reassures her, providing emotional stability and understanding, which strengthens their bond.
Consistency and Vulnerability
In moments of conflict or uncertainty, Noah remains consistent and dependable. His reliability strengthens their relationship, creating a sense of security. When Joanne opens up about her fears regarding their future, Noah is not only comforting with his words but aligns his actions with those reassurances, deepening their emotional connection.
Embracing Independence
Although they come from different backgrounds, Noah and Joanne make it a point to encourage each otherās independence. They support each otherās career goals and find a balance between spending time together and apart. This mutual respect for individual growth is a pillar of a healthy, secure relationship.
If youād like to explore more about attachment styles, check out the book recommendations in the resources section below.
MENTAL HEALTH CHECK-IN
Gratitude Journal Prompts
Journaling is a powerful coping tool that I often recommend. It allows us to pause, reflect, and process experiences or events that we may be storing in our mind or body. Itās important to remember that journaling doesnāt have to look a certain way and you can start small and allow the practice to grow at your own pace. If youāre looking to incorporate more gratitude into your journaling practice, here are some prompts to get started:
Two or three things Iām grateful for todayā¦
The best part of today wasā¦
Two or three things that would make today greatā¦
One affirmation for todayā¦
A highlight of the dayā¦
One thing I learned todayā¦
An act of kindness I witnessed or receivedā¦
A reason Iām excited about the futureā¦
Something Iām proud ofā¦
Someone I admireā¦
An unexpected good thing that happenedā¦
Something beautiful I sawā¦
An experience I feel lucky to have hadā¦
LISTEN
š Understanding and Overcoming Social Anxiety: Attachment, Exposure and Confidence
On this episode of āBeing Wellā, hosts Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson discuss the roots of social anxiety, exploring how attachment styles and individual temperaments contribute to it. They also share evidence-based strategies for managing social anxiety. Listen here.
Social anxiety isnāt about wanting to avoid people. Itās about wanting to connect but feeling too afraid to try.
Todayās Affirmation
I celebrate my inner growth with the same joy I find in the changing seasons.
RESOURCES
Books
Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Findāand KeepāLove by Amir Levine, M.D. and Rachel S.F. Heller, M.A.
The Power of Attachment by Diane Poole Heller, Phd.
It Didn't Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle by Mark Wolynn.