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Hi everyone!
This past month, I’ve been feeling especially grateful for the time spent with family and friends, and for extended moments in nature. During this time, I felt more present, grounded, and less anxious, especially while spending time by a lake. I recently came across the concept of the "blue mindset," which might explain these feelings. If you’re interested, I’ve included an article about it below.
This experience ties into a recurring theme in recent sessions—the challenge of releasing guilt when it comes to taking breaks and resting. Many of us have internalized the idea that rest is unproductive, a belief often rooted in learned behaviors. Perfectionism, hustle culture, and peer pressure can also fuel this guilt. However, by recognizing that rest is essential to our well-being, we can begin to embrace it as a path to inner peace and balance.
My happy place.
I hope you find time and space to rest and recharge.
Have a great rest of your week!
All the best,
Mandy
FROM THE GG BLOG
Breaking the Cycle of Overthinking: What You Need to Know
Overthinking, or rumination, often creates problems that never existed. It typically stems from uncertainty and a desire to protect yourself from potential harm. In today's world, the overload of information and societal pressures can intensify one’s tendency to ruminate. Overthinking isn't just a passing worry or a moment of indecision; it's a persistent habit that drains your energy, affects your mental health, and traps you in a cycle of anxiety and doubt.
At its core, overthinking often reflects underlying discomfort rooted in deep-seated beliefs and past experiences. These beliefs shape how we perceive and respond to the world around us. For example, if you grew up in an environment with high expectations, you might overthink decisions, striving to meet unattainable standards. To break the cycle of overthinking, it’s crucial to understand not only what triggers it, but why it happens. By exploring these deeper issues, you can begin to break the cycle of overthinking and be more present with yourself and others.
MEDIA
Very Demure, Very Mindful
This past week, a new trend emerged that I can't stop quoting—especially because I love all things mindful. It all began with a TikTok by Jools Lebron (@joolieannie), sparking a conversation across the internet about what’s considered “demure” and “not demure.” So, what does it mean to be demure? According to Merriam-Webster, "demure" means "affectedly modest, reserved, or serious." In essence, being demure is about being considerate, unobtrusive, and handling tasks with quiet confidence—without drawing attention to oneself. For example, patiently waiting to exit your seat until the plane is ready to de-board is very demure.
I thought it would be fun to join the trend and create my own list of “demure” mental health related practices:
Demure
Checking in on friends and family just because
Setting boundaries and prioritizing your needs
Taking a mental health walk during a work break
Reading a book before bed instead of doomscrolling
Practicing deep breathing strategies before socializing
Choosing to rest when your body needs it
READ
What Is The Blue Mindset? Why We’re Spending Time Near Water
Blue mind theory is the idea that being in or near water makes you calmer and happier, both in the long and short term.
Learn more on The Good Trade.
LISTEN
🎙 Help! I’m Anxious About My Anxiety
On this episode of “ShrinkChicks", Jennifer Chaiken and Emmalee Bierly discuss recognizing anticipatory anxiety and coping skills to use when it becomes activated. Listen here.
Anxiety’s job is to protect you. It doesn’t realize sometimes it goes too far and it’s not helpful. It’s trying to protect you.
Today’s Affirmation
Today, I am making space for myself and honoring my needs.
RESOURCES
Books
Blue Mind: The Surprising Science That Shows How Being Near, In, On, or Under Water Can Make You Happier, Healthier, More Connected, and Better at What You Do by Dr. Wallace J. Nichols.
Stop Overthinking: 23 Techniques to Relieve Stress, Stop Negative Spirals, Declutter Your Mind, and Focus on the Present (The Path to Calm) by Nick Trenton.
Unwinding Anxiety: New Science Shows How to Break the Cycles of Worry and Fear to Heal Your Mind by Judson Brewer MD, PhD.
